5 years ago this week, my brother dropped dead suddenly of alcoholism induced diabetes. I will never forget how painful it was to be attending his visitation on Valentine’s Day, with a wreath of roses near his casket.
Right after him, our mother passed away unexpectedly in April of 2020.
That ensued my journey of finally facing many, many unprocessed deaths in my life since 2006.
My pain became my purpose, because now as a work/life balance coach and healing a practitioner who specializes in grief, I have done MANY things to help me recover
And, yes, you can recover from grief!
In fact, all the modalities I utilized and studied for the last 4 years, all helped me no longer dread these “death”-versaries. I actually look forward to them in honoring the dearly departed with reverence, gratitude and a love so so deep, it is almost as if they are NOT gone.
Plant medicine, breathwork, Kambo, meditation, somatic therapy, talk therapy…..the list is endless of what I turned to to help me heal my grief
Oftentimes, many of these were amazing tools…however, short lived/short term immediate results. There was no sudden “cure” or “healing”. Healing really does take time and many facets to it.
Grief recovery is a JOURNEY and is definitely a mind/body/spirit alchemy that has blown my mind and heart wide open with humility, compassion and grace for myself and others
I will say at this time, especially as I enter into the deepest grief of my life so far in divorce, Kundalini yoga and it’s breathing patterns, meditations and mantra as my daily practice has saved my life, enhanced my health and my Spirit in ways that I can’t describe
And I am helping women find this as their tool more and more today to help them process grief stronger/safely and, in some cases, faster
Why is this so key?
Grief is, in essence, a form of trauma
And can be inconsolable at times
I have sobbed, thrown myself to the ground, been in the fetal position countless times over the past 4 years as I face my grief head on (and heart open)
This isn’t easy, unless you have support AND tools that can help you support yourself in the darkest hours on your own
I heard a great quote in my yoga training last year, “SPEED IS THE BEST HIDING PLACE FOR GRIEF”
And I reflected on how in many/most other times of grief in my life (death, moving, break ups, loss of community, etc), I drowned myself in “busy-ness” in order to avoid and minimize the grieving process altogether.
I stuffed down and dissociated.
Which was the worst thing I could do for myself.
“Our essential being organism requires a minimally regulated nervous system so that our innate sensitivity might first attune to aliveness, safety and curiosity. Only then may it begin to operate towards a transformation that is fueled by the exuberant and fiery endlessness that lives in our hearts”
Once I found Kundalini yoga, breathing, meditation and mantra…..and started partaking in it multiple times a week, I found home.
I felt safe within myself.
I felt grounded and whole.
i could much better and efficiently regulate my emotions
YOGA HELPS US
- Notice
- Acknowledge
- Welcoming it in
Oftentimes, when we face trauma or grief or suffering, one may ask, Is it safe for me to be alive??? Having lost many friends to suicide and addiction related deaths (a slower suicide)….I can relate to this. I, too, wanted to die many times due to unprocessed grief and trauma stuck in my body
Grief as an emotional threat elicits danger and activates the threat response cycle
WHY GRIEF AND YOGA?
Because our mental story follows our biological state, and yoga is uniquely qualified to reorganize our biological state
Because we need to keep the energy of pain moving
Because hope also lives in the body
Because grief is biopsychosocial
Because our bodies respond to loss and sadness regardless of how we think we “should” feel
Because 80 percent of our instinctive sensations are communicated from our organs to our brain
Because our sense of well being is not dependent on things being well
Because when we support our bodies, we support our minds
Because we don’t have to do this alone
Science and spirituality overlook an essential component: the state of regulation within our nervous system. A nervous system that is overwhelmed by sympathetic activation and out of balance it cannot effectively perceive or respond to our pre-existing, deeper realities
And yoga, kundalini, breathing, meditation ALL help us activate more of the parasympathetic central nervous system
And THEN, we can feel safe, held and OK
It is not our grief or trauma we end up facing….it is OURSELVES (us as humans having a human body/experience)
If you are ready to face yourself and your grief, CLICK HERE to join me in my 66 day program for women
Do you struggle with grief or abandonment wounding of any kind?
I sure have from my ancestors all through today!
I am launching a new grief focused 66 day program for women who are struggling with grief in the following categories:
-Divorce
-Death
-Job loss/career shifts
-Moving
-Empty nesting
-Sudden loss and abandonment of any kind
I am pouring into women in a unique way and also giving them the ability to focus on awakening their goddess energy and kundalini shakti
I am a yogi, medicine woman, spiritual teacher, meditation/mindfulness coach amongst a huge background for 24 years in health/fitness/nutrition/gut health/mental health
If you want to be in a virtual container focused on YOU and allowing your tears to flow and regulate your central nervous system as well as go thru shadow work, let me know!
We will have weekly group calls
1-1 calls
Personal and professional goals
40 day Sadhana challenge (aka realization practice/ritual to heal grief)
And so much more!
**Microdosing is optional
Want to heal your mind/body/spirit?
AND have fun while so doing?
My email is support@microdosingforhealth.com
Let’s heal together
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