Today is the 2nd to last day as amarried woman (as I write this on August 6th, 2025)

This is admittedly my first writing/blog post in quite some time

I took the mercury retrogrades (and all the retrogrades happenin in the past several weeks) to go inward

To reflect

To ponder my learnings from this experience of transition and healing time called “divorce”

I will admit I write this with a lump in my throat and a few tears still in my eyes

If you’ve followed me for a while, you know that I have had a LOT of death in my life (13 total suicides of friends as of today, many losses to addiction and also all 3 of my parents long gone)

Yet, grieving a living/breathing person and an ideaology of “til death do us part” from my upbringing….well,that is quite a whole new level of grief and sorrow and disappointment (dare I say abandonment and betrayal) that I had never fully felt before in my life

OR, rather what I have learned since last year when I consciously formulated this decision, a re-learning from many lifetimes, many soul contracts and childhood trauma come full circle

Grief is a never ending journey and winding road of returning to love – a returning of Self and a Becoming of our highest and best version of our truest version of our soul’s karmic lessons.

I have seen countless men and women be and become bitter or angry or lost after a divorce (and often repeating the experience with another partner who resembled the last one energetically)

I didn’t want that for me, my children OR my former partner.

So I went on a yearlong quest to get me to this moment where I can honestly say, I have a deep sense of love and compassion for my former partner and am grateful for him to be one of, if not THEE, greatest teacher of this lifetime (and many before this one)

It wasn’t easy and it hurt (and still does at times) like hell to let go, learn and move on with deep life lessons that I can now happily teach others growing through the grief called “divorce” or break up or separation.

Here is my top 10 list – please share with those you know going/growing through a break up or divorce (or truly any kind of loss)

1.  Listen to my intuition

2. The body has kept the score and our partners are merely mirrors of our unhealed wounds

3. Divorce is a great doorway to a spiritual awakening

4.  Forgiveness is necessary

5.  Sacred rage is a gift that brings

6. Be real raw and radically honest with yourself

7.  Codependency is real and is at the core wounding of most women – and my needs truly do matter!

8.   Being a single mom is a gift and I am closer to my kids than ever

9.   Surrender is the deepest form of humility, grace and mercy – no more need to be right

10.  Asking for help is the best gift I received from this (it truly takes a village to heal during a divorce process and one can’t do it alone)