It’s Mother’s Day weekend
And EVERY year I am reminded how this “holiday” can be hard on many as I work with clients and talk to friends
Especially if you lost your mom in the past year and still grieving that loss – I am sorry for your loss. I lost my mom just before mother’s day in 2020 and know that pain
OR, if you were like I was and had a mentally ill mother who left when I was 4 years old AND died when I was an adult – you just never really had a mom to begin with and got to “lose” her twice
Or maybe you have a strained relationship with your living mom
OR you are a mom and having disconnect with your own children
I have seen all too well how the mother wound (and what I call the “Womb” wound) has impacted people in health, wealth and relationships.
Our mother’s most likely grew up in a very patriarchal modeled society and often were trained to be submissive to their husbands. Many wanted careers, but maybe didn’t have the opportunities come to fruition.
Maybe their husbands were working too much or gone a lot and they had to raise the children almost like single mothers
Or maybe, just maybe you didn’t feel nurtured by your mom.
If any of these apply to you…..in any way, you most likely have a mom wound.
How does one even know?
For example, you maybe are looking forward to this weekend and you are saying, “Magdalena, I don’t have a mom wound!”
Well, let’s check that
Think about this – once you/I were born, we left the only place we ever knew…her womb
We came into this world feeling like an alien and would take the next 21 years to develop our mental, physical and emotional bodies (of which would carry a LOT of micro traumas)
Our mother’s womb was our home, where we were fed and swimming mostly stress free (depending upon how moms life was going while we were in utero)….and then we got forcefully “moved” into planet earth
NO easy task to adapt to (not that we would remember!)
Then began our journeys as humans/babies/kids
And depending upon how happy mom and dad’s lives were at the time (or weren’t), our first 18-21 years were our formative of our mind/body and spiritual/emotional responses or reactions to the world.
To put it simply, EVERYONE has a mom wound of some kind
And I don’t mean this to be a debbie downer conversation
This is normal and important to recognize
For what we resist, persists
SO if this holiday triggers you, I would encourage you to know that there is “gold in them thar hills” of your heart space
And if you are a woman, your womb space!
If you feel emotional right now or triggered reading this….keep reading!
Take a look at this list of feminine (aka mom/womb) wounding attributes I have been trained in, seen in myself and my clients (mostly entrepreneurs or mompreneurs are whom I work with)
NOTE: You can be male or female or non binary and this can apply to you since we all have brains in our head that have 2 hemispheres and bodies that have 2 sides. Right brain/left side of the body is the feminine energy.
AND whether you knew her or not, everyone had to have a mom to be born!
See if any of these have an impact on your or you feel any type of response while reading this
Which of these do you embody or see in yourself?
MOM/FEMININE WOUNDING TRAITS:
- Too much free time – Wastes time (too much in the flow) and easily distracted,doesn’t feel productive or like you are moving forward with a goal (can be any goal)
- Guilt wounding of any kind
- “I am too much” and therefore I shut down and don’t have a voice
- Doesn’t like structure (usually says things “God or the Divine has a plan…..”) and waits for stuff to happen
- Overly creative – creating all the time, but not acting upon any of the creativity/marketing, etc. Always in creation mode – not selling/action mode.
- Doesn’t listen to intuition/gut instinct – says yes more than necessary/codependent energies and regrets it later….
- Ends up working with anyone/everyone in business and personal life – doesn’t want to have a niche or focus in business.
- No boundaries in place, people pleasing or fawning tendencies take over and you might lose yourself/your identity
- Over giving in any way (financial/mental/advice/time/energy) – this is very common in the wounded healer archetype
- Often broke or experiencing up and down income – doesn’t make enough money because avoids systems and taking the lead on that (again, “Source will provide the leads to just show up”
- Very loose/lax follow up, and doesn’t have a system for follow up in business or with friends – maybe even hard to get a hold of (you shut down)
- Fear of commitment/fear of rejection or abandonment
If ANY of these resonate with you, you have a mom wound that may be holding you back in life
Or hurting your health, wealth or relationships
I have a FREE resource for you today to help with this
CLICK HERE for my free mother wound healing class I did years ago that may help you this weekend transmute or alchemize some of the above traits into what you truly want in health, wealth and relationships. It also covers the father wounding if that resonates more with you.
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